Last updated on March 28th, 2018 at 10:09 pm
how parenting changes when you have a second child
There are different parenting changes when you have a second child. When you had just one little one, all of your time and attention was placed on them. Having a second child means you have to start sharing that attention. Here’s a look at a few of the parenting changes when you have a sceond child:
1. Alternating between kids
Parenting changes when you have a second child because you have to alternate between kids. What I mean by this is that you have to alternate who you pick first. In an effort to avoid sibling jealousy, it is important to alternate between kids on who you are helping. I think it is important for both of your kids to see this because they will know you are not favoring one over the other. Let me give you an example of doing this with a toddler and a baby:
I made it a habit of telling my daughter, you were first last time so now it is baby’s turn. I would also tell baby “you were first last time so now it’s big sister’s turn”. Now, a baby isn’t going to really understand what you are saying but it is important for your toddler to hear that you are being fair and alternating between each other.
2. Your children will have similarities, but also differences
There are some parenting changes when you have a second child because no child is exactly like another. They are afterall an individual and have their own characteristics and personality. One child might need more help with certain things than the other one. I came from a family of five siblings and while we share a lot of characteristics, we are all different in many ways (still trying to figure out how my parents managed 5).
3. It is a LOT harder
Parenting changes when you have a second child because it gets a LOT harder. I’m not trying to scare you, but it is a lot harder when you have two. Think about everything you are doing now, and multiply it by two (if you are a twin mommy…props to you because I have no idea how you do it, but you rock!). Depending on how big of an age gap, you might have a built-in helper, but it is still a lot of work raising two children and trying to get everything done for both. While it is a lot harder, it is also rewarding to see your first child become a sibling and watch how sweet their interactions can be to your second!
4. You want your kids to like each other
Another way parenting changes when you have a second child is that you want your kids to like each other. Not only are you teaching your child how to walk and talk, you are also going to want to teach your kids to get along with each other. A big part of this is teaching your first child how to share with your second.
It is definitely an adjustment for your first child because they know how life was like when it was just them. Your second child will only ever experience life with their sibling. My daughter took a little bit to warm up to her baby brother but now she really likes him! My son just adores his big sister, even from day one. I hope they stay friends even when they are older.
Thank you for reading how parenting changes when you have a second child. I hope you enjoyed reading it, and it helps give you a glimpse at some of the changes you have to make when you have a second kid. Don’t forget to share, and also subscribe for more sweet advice from one mom to another!