Last updated on September 28th, 2018 at 11:23 am
How to be a good mom
It’s hard being a mom. There, I said it. We all have those days where we wonder…am I a good mom? Answering that question isn’t as easy as it sounds. How do we measure what a “good mom” is? In today’s day and age, it is easy to compare yourself to all those Pinterest moms, or other seemingly perfect moms. Well, here’s the trick…don’t! So the big question is “how to be a good mom?”
Well, here are a few tips for you!
1. A Good Mom is one that does her best
Moms are cooks, cleaners, teachers, fashion consultants, personal shoppers, cheerleaders, kissers of boo-boos, peace-keepers, motivators, but also humans. Like all humans, moms are not perfect, and quite frankly that is just the way it should be. While many seek to achieve perfection, it is better to aim for your best! Setting unrealistic expectations as a mom will only make you miserable…so just don’t do it.
2. A Good Mom Does Not Compare Herself to Others
If you ask yourself how to be a good mom, you might start looking around at other moms and comparing. This is not the thing to do, because it’s an unfair comparison. We are all in different places in our lives and going to through obstacles that only we know about.
Do you want to know something cool? We are all unique. There is no other person just like you…so stop comparing yourself to others. Nothing good comes from this, instead find things to be grateful for. When you stop looking at others around you, and start enjoying what you have, you will be a much better mom!
3. A Good Mom Listens to Her Kids
If you are wondering how to be a good mom, the biggest thing you can do is to take time to listen to your kids. How you react when they are younger will play a huge part when they get older. If you listened and made time for them, they are going to want to come to you for advice and help.
The same goes for if you never made time or attention for them, when they get older they are not going to make time for you either.
4. A good mom plays and has fun
Knowing how to be a good mom includes playing and having fun with your kids. It not only helps them share and interact with others, but it also get’s your child learning!
Whether you are a working mom, stay-at-home mom, or work-at-home mom, it’s important to find time in your busy schedule to sit on the floor and play! You will truly notice how big an impact it has on your kids when you get on their level and have fun with them.
5. A good mom has rules
It’s easy to be a friend, but even more important to be a parent. Kids need rules! It helps them know what we expect from them as parents, and rules are also in place to keep them safe. Now, sometimes kids have a hard time adjusting at first, but in the long run they will be a much happier child and you a happier mom!
How To Be A Good Mom On A Bad Day
Bad days are simply that, a bad day. It doesn’t mean you are less of a mom. Now it can be hard to be a good mom when you are having a bad day/week. That’s why I wanted to share with you a few tips on how to be a good mom on a bad day:
1. Use Postive affirmations
Like previously stated, being a mom is hard. There are going to be bad days where you feel like a failure. That’s where positive affirmations become your friend.
What is a postive affirmation? It’s actually a statement that you create that you tell yourself to help boost your self-esteem. Using postive affirmations in your daily life can help you gain more confidence in yourself, as turn a bad day good again!
Self-care is another important thhing when you want to know how to be a good mom on a bad day. Moms never stop, and that’s why we HAVE to make it a point to give ourselve’s a break.
On the days where nothing seems to be going right for you, stop for a minute and give yourself a break. Yes, you might be running late, or there is a huge mess, but stop. The mess can be cleaned up, and you will get there when you get there. Take a breather before you completely lose yourself in the moment.
Then, make sure to daily find something you can do just for you, because you can’t pour from an empty cup. Check out this article for a complete list of self care ideas.
So, now you know how to be a good mom! It takes work and effort but the most important thing you can do is listen and make time for your kids, stop comparing yourself to other moms, set rules for your kids, and remember to give yourself a break. You can be a good mom on a bad day or any day just so long as you follow those guidelines.
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