Coping With Miscarriage: Dear Mom

Last updated on October 1st, 2018 at 02:48 pm

 

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If you are reading this, you have probably experienced miscarriage or know someone who has. First off, I am sorry. Miscarriages suck, and nothing I say or do will change that. Take it from a mom who has had 3 miscarriages. The excitement and joy of being pregnant, followed by the feeling of emptiness and guilt is the worst roller coaster ride. These would be my tips for coping with miscarriage.

Don’t Give Up

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One of the first things I would tell someone coping with miscarriage would be: don’t give up. If I would have given up after my first miscarriage, I wouldn’t have the two beautiful children that I do today. Give yourself time to grieve before you try again, but do try again.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Going through miscarriages made me want to never try for another kid, because I didn’t want to go through another round of disappointment/heartache/grief/frustration. What kept me going was thinking how much I was going to cherish and love my next rainbow baby!

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Open up with people around you

This is so important for moms coping with miscarriage; you need to open up with people around you. You will be surprised how many people have experienced what you have. There is a strange stigma surrounding talking about miscarriages, but the reality is: it helps. It is nice to know you are not the only one who has had this happen. I totally get it though, I didn’t announce my subsequent pregnancies after my first miscarriage until I was far enough along that I was sure I wasn’t going to have a miscarriage again.



There is a reason for everything

I am a firm believer in “Everything happens for a reason” and yes miscarriages too. I experienced horrible morning sickness with my daughter after my miscarriage (you can read more about it here), but the prior miscarriage gave me the strength to know I was blessed with this child. After I had my daughter, I had two more miscarriages before becoming pregnant with my son.

Miscarriage is something no woman wants to go through. If you have gone through one please remember not to give up, open up with people around you, and know there is a reason for everything. Coping with miscarriage will be hard, but know you are not alone. Feel free to comment below on this post about your stories, and words of encouragement for others to read. Also please share and subscribe for more sweet advice from one mom to another.

19 comments on “Coping With Miscarriage: Dear Mom

  1. Thanks for sharing your experience and I’m sorry you had to go through that. While I haven’t had the experience I know many unfortunately who have. A blessing that you had two beautiful children ❤️

  2. Sending so much love your way! I had a miscarriage on 9/11/13. A few months later, I found out I was pregnant with twins and their due date: 9/11/14. A few years later, I became pregnant with my last baby and her due date: 9/12 (although I gave the wrong period date so it was actually 9/11 as well). So crazy how things work out!

    • Thank you. I certainly hope it can help someone who might be going through this. It is not exactly a topic that most people want to talk about, but knowing others have gone through it can make it easier.

  3. Thank you for sharing momma! It is such a comfort to read your post. Indeed, there is a reason for everything. Let’s just keep on trusting Him and wait for the right time. Cybehugs! We got this momma! ❤

  4. I had a miscarriage and I was so embarrassed. I guess I felt like “less of a woman” for not being able to take care of my baby. It sounds so strange writing it out or telling people how I felt! A year after I had the miscarriage, I finally started opening up about it. You don’t realize how many people are in the same boat! It’s so important to open up and realize you’re not alone! Thanks for sharing, love this!

    • Erica, I have been there. I questioned why I couldn’t do what other women could. That’s why there is strength in opening up and learning that you are not the only one. Sending a little love your way, as it can be hard to talk about!

  5. Thank you for sharing your story. It’s always helpful to know that we aren’t alone in our struggles. And your rainbow babies are precious!

  6. Thanks for sharing. I feel like miscarriage is something that’s not talked about often enough, yet I’m sure it’s painful to open up about it. This post is encouraging as I’ve not experienced miscarriage but have several friends that have!

    • I agree Grace Anna, conversations about miscarriages just don’t seem to happen like other topics in a woman’s life. I think if we end the stigma it would help so many people who are going through it, and be able to cope better.

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