How Parenting Changes When You Have a Second Child

Sharing is caring!

Last updated on March 28th, 2018 at 10:09 pm

How parenting changes when you have a second child - www.momwithcookies.com #parenting #secondchild #momlife

how parenting changes when you have a second child

There are different parenting changes when you have a second child. When you had just one little one, all of your time and attention was placed on them. Having a second child means you have to start sharing that attention. Here’s a look at a few of the parenting changes when you have a sceond child:

1. Alternating between kids

How parenting changes when you have a second child - www.momwithcookies.com #parenting #secondchild #momlife

Parenting changes when you have a second child because you have to alternate between kids. What I mean by this is that you have to alternate who you pick first. In an effort to avoid sibling jealousy, it is important to alternate between kids on who you are helping. I think it is important for both of your kids to see this because they will know you are not favoring one over the other. Let me give you an example of doing this with a toddler and a baby:

I made it a habit of telling my daughter, you were first last time so now it is baby’s turn. I would also tell baby “you were first last time so now it’s big sister’s turn”. Now, a baby isn’t going to really understand what you are saying but it is important for your toddler to hear that you are being fair and alternating between each other.

2. Your children will have similarities, but also differences

How parenting changes when you have a second child - www.momwithcookies.com #parenting #secondchild #momlife

There are some parenting changes when you have a second child because no child is exactly like another. They are afterall an individual and have their own characteristics and personality. One child might need more help with certain things than the other one. I came from a family of five siblings and while we share a lot of characteristics, we are all different in many ways (still trying to figure out how my parents managed 5).

3. It is a LOT harder

 

How parenting changes when you have a second child - www.momwithcookies.com #parenting #secondchild #momlife

Parenting changes when you have a second child because it gets a LOT harder. I’m not trying to scare you, but it is a lot harder when you have two. Think about everything you are doing now, and multiply it by two (if you are a twin mommy…props to you because I have no idea how you do it, but you rock!). Depending on how big of an age gap, you might have a built-in helper, but it is still a lot of work raising two children and trying to get everything done for both. While it is a lot harder, it is also rewarding to see your first child become a sibling and watch how sweet their interactions can be to your second!

4. You want your kids to like each other

How parenting changes when you have a second child - www.momwithcookies.com #parenting #secondchild #momlife

Another way parenting changes when you have a second child is that you want your kids to like each other. Not only are you teaching your child how to walk and talk, you are also going to want to teach your kids to get along with each other. A big part of this is teaching your first child how to share with your second.

It is definitely an adjustment for your first child because they know how life was like when it was just them. Your second child will only ever experience life with their sibling. My daughter took a little bit to warm up to her baby brother but now she really likes him! My son just adores his big sister, even from day one. I hope they stay friends even when they are older.

Thank you for reading how parenting changes when you have a second child. I hope you enjoyed reading it, and it helps give you a glimpse at some of the changes you have to make when you have a second kid. Don’t forget to share, and also subscribe for more sweet advice from one mom to another!

How parenting changes when you have a second child - www.momwithcookies.com #parenting #secondchild #momlife #parentingchanges #parentingchangeswithsecondchild #secondkid

How parenting changes when you have a second child - www.momwithcookies.com #parenting #secondchild #momlife #parentingchanges #parentingchangeswithsecondchild #secondkid

How parenting changes when you have a second child - www.momwithcookies.com #parenting #secondchild #momlife #parentingchanges #parentingchangeswithsecondchild #secondkid

 

 

 

Sharing is caring!

24 comments on “How Parenting Changes When You Have a Second Child

  1. You made some good points. I’ll tell you, 2 is a lot harder than 1, 3 is a bit of an adjustment from 2, but after 3; you just have to keep count. (Coming from a mom of 5)

  2. These are all great points! Things definitely change when you have more than one child. It sure is rewarding though. I joke with my daughter in law that I sure do make less stops when I have my grandchildren with me because the thought of getting them in and out of their car seat more than I have to is not appealing 🙂 That extra stop can wait!

    • It really is rewarding having two kids, especially when you get to see them interact with each other. I 100% agree with you that having more than one kid definitely makes you plan out a trip with them better because it is a lot more work getting two out of car seats than just one!

  3. My husband and I are well adjusted to life with 1 and continue the discussion of when the time is right for number 2. We’re hoping to get number 1 potty trained so we’re not changing two diapers at all times. These are great points and we wonder about them every day!

    • Samantha, there are struggles, but there are also wonderful times that just melt your heart. I love seeing my older daughter interact with her baby brother. She is so sweet to him, and it absolutely is the best thing ever to see!

  4. I have two little daughters who are 22 months apart and I honestly feel like it’s more about their personalities than the fact that there are two of them. The older one is super opinionated and strong-willed while the second is much more patient and easygoing. They actually get along great, but I do agree that it’s hard not to notice developmental differences or make comparisons of their behavior.

  5. I like the suggestion to start encouraging a positive sibling life when the second child is still a baby. Sometimes we as parents focus too much on the baby, but this is a great way to provide balance to them both.

  6. Joanna,

    Great post! Being a mom of two & both under 5 years old is hard and takes some adjusting. The reward, in the end, is when they both are playing well with each other and love each other. That is by far the best sight and feeling. Best wishes to you and your family.

    Much Love, Taylor

    • Thank you Carol! Congratulations by the way:). It is a little adjustment period, but I think if you take turns and let your oldest one see that baby isn’t going to always come first, it will help. My older daughter adapted well because I did this!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *