Last updated on May 15th, 2018 at 11:31 pm
With all things baby, there are many different ways to do things. People write about sleep training, potty-training, feeding, and even playtime activities. When I first had my daughter, I was mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausted. Sure I had envisioned reading all the articles and doing everything that was 100% recommended by pediatricians. That was all well and good, but as a mom, I learned that I had to do what was best for me and my family.
Sleep training: cry it out was one of those things I had read about but just couldn’t bring myself to do it, until one too many sleepless nights. I wanted to share my own techniques and tips for sleep training: cry it out so that it could help your family too!
What is Sleep Training: Cry it out?
It is just like it sounds, you let your baby cry it out. This helps your baby learn to self-soothe themselves back to sleep if and when they wake up during the night. You will hear people that are for and against it, but in all honesty, you have to do whatever works for you! Being a parent isn’t about keeping up appearances, it’s about doing what is best for your child no matter what.
Mommy meltdowns are one of the biggest reservations people have to using the sleep training: cry it out method, which leads me to a few tips to remember to avoid said meltdowns.
Keep yourself from having a meltdown
Two things to remember to keep yourself from having a meltdown during sleep training: cry it out:
- Tell yourself you are a good mom. Remind yourself you are doing what is best for them. They need to sleep, and they need to learn how to fall back asleep in the middle of the night.
- Close the door or walk to the other part of the house. It is going to be hard, but get your mind off of it. Baby will be asleep before you know it. [This is where a baby monitor comes into play].
If possible, have baby sleeping in a different room than you
While I completely understand that not all circumstances let this be an option, but if you can, have your baby sleep in a different room than you. This was an important part in sleep training my daughter. Right now with my son, we are in smaller quarters, so this isn’t an option.
The reason for this is because while your baby learns to self-soothe, the room he/she sleeps in will be loud and crazy. The part about cry it out is that your baby has to cry it out to learn how to self-soothe, and if you sleep in the same room…no sleep for you!
When’s the right time?
Every baby is different. As a mom, you are going to be the best judge of when your baby is ready to learn sleep training: cry it out. There are definite exceptions like if they are sick, or crying because they are still hungry or wet. I found it was a good time to start sleep training: cry it out after my baby had an already established routine of feedings and play times.
My own success story
Like I said earlier, I had read a lot about sleep training: cry it out, but if you are like me, hearing your baby cry physically does something to you. It was the most heartbreaking thing to hear her cry. So, cry it out was put on the back burner, and I constantly went to my baby when she cried. This developed a pattern at night time, and if she woke up in the middle of the night, she couldn’t self-soothe herself back to sleep. After the countless times of getting woken up in the night, I decided I had to do something for my sanity and my husband’s.
I came back to cry it out. This is the best way for a child to learn to self-soothe herself back to sleep especially in the middle of the night after both you and your spouse are fast asleep. The first week I would deem as hell week. I think I cried just as much as she did. The next week, I could see the light. She was still testing the waters when we put her down to sleep, but after 5-10 minutes of “fake crying”, she would fall asleep. Then, it happened! I slept through the night. Amazing. I always get woken up to her crying in the middle of the night, but this time it didn’t happen.
Sleep training: cry it out can be a hard thing to try at first, but with the right techniques, you and your family will be so much happier! Remember to start when your baby has a feeding routine established, sleep in a different room than your baby, and use the tips to avoid mommy meltdowns during this critical time in your baby’s life. Feel free to share with all your friends and family that have babies, and as always subscribe for more sweet advice from one mom to another.